Pastor Ulf's conference was superb. Everyone felt that it was a message specially meant for us. It was about friendship. I was so captivated throughout as the msg came just at the right time for me.. My classmate whom i mentioned previously (the one who screams and bosses ard) had a talk with me and my civics tutor this afternoon. She poured her heart out. So all the 10 yrs of her life, she doesn't have any close friends. Not even one. She was/is very insecuring, always doubting the friendships she had. She expected her friends to show the same level of love and concern that she gave them. She expected them to be there for her 24/7. She wanted people to think like her. To put it bluntly, she wanted people to live the way she wanted them to live. While she was talking, the word 'dictatorship' kept coming across my mind. Ms Yew and I told her our views about certain things, i don't know if she actually listened and absorbed, but she kept talking about what she thought about this and that. So i told her if she is not being open to other's perspectives then there was no point for us to talk. She insisted she was being open. Okie.... and she went on to talk about her family.. relatives.. blabla. So we just listened. now come the shocking thing. She told us she considered me as her good friend. i was like 'what?!' (in my mind of cos) i seriously donno if i should be happy or sad. So i just smiled. Speechless. Part of me felt that i was such a meanie for treating her the way i treated her and yet was still her good friend in her eyes.. but the feeling i felt when she said that was undescribable. I didn't know what feeling i felt then.. but anyway after the talk, she had a part of me and i had a part of her and i felt i understood her better and thus can accept her better.

Pst Ulf's msg hit me like a bullet thru a bull's eye. I learnt that:
- loneliness tortures people more than anything else.
She feels lonely. I want to be the light that shines in her life and make a positive influence in her.
- if you want to have a friend, be a friend.
Don't expect people to come to you and befriend u.
- friends sees right through you and still love you
I like it when my friends corrects me when i'm wrong, that only shows that they care.
I hope that by talking to her just now, she will feel the same.
- Love people and use things. Not vice versa.
- Friendship is an atmosphere of relaxation.
Friends don't compete with each other... They encourage and strengthen each other's weaknesses.
- If you're in it, you might as well enjoy it!
We may meet difficult people at times or go thru a valley, all these are inevitable so instead of complaining and be whiney, enjoy it! look at the brighter side of situations. It's all in the mind. (sounds cliche right. =P)

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.
Philippians 2:3-4